How hard is hello? Pretty darn hard if you ask me. Whatever your socializing goal is, whether you are going to a party, making friends in school, surviving a work event, or a holiday gathering with your family, it all starts with small talk.
This can be hard for us Extra Introverts, and even more hard for just Introverts. For many of us, the thought of going somewhere and being forced to talk about the weather with someone we absolutely do not know, haven’t seen in a while, or anyone we are just not comfortable talking to is a sure way to increase that social anxiety.
While you may just want to avoid these situations, it’s much better to find ways to work through them. Many fantastic opportunities, relationships, and fun can come from just engaging in a little small talk.
1. Ask Questions
I know, I know, sometimes it’s hard to have all the focus on yourself. Asking questions can shift the focus on someone else for a while. This can even help you learn what you and the other person may have in common and spark an even deeper conversation.
2. Do your best not to give short answers
It is much easier, and probably first nature to respond back with a one-liner or little information at all. However, try your best to add more to your responses and even focus on topics you’re interested in.
3. Be aware of body language
If your arms are folded, or you’re turned sideways, you probably aren’t giving off that you want to engage in the conversation. Even if you are. Be purposeful in your movements, and try to keep them welcoming. You know, lean in a little bit, shake your head, or something.
4. Don’t Be afraid to make the first move
You can do it! I promise. Starting with compliments or questions, as stated before, really can make this easy. Remember not to be disappointed or too hard on yourself. Every conversation won’t turn into a deep-rooted discourse that leads to an everlasting friendship. Remember that that is okay, but be proud of yourself for stepping out of your comfort zone.
5. Know how to end the conversation
It’s essential to end the conversation on a good note. If you are getting to that portion of your conversation where you don’t have anything else to say, but you don’t want it to get awkward or end it abruptly. Politely excuse yourself by letting the person know that you are going to get a refreshment or something close to this.
Voila! There we have it, folks. Let me know if you have any additional tips that help you!